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Judging Others Favorably

These sources establish the Jewish ethical obligation to interpret others' actions charitably and give them the benefit of the doubt. Drawing from biblical commandments, Talmudic teachings, and the works of medieval Jewish philosophers, they explain both the legal basis for this practice and its spiritual importance in cultivating humility and compassion.

וֶהֱוֵי דָן אֶת כָּל הָאָדָם לְכַף זְכוּת

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Source 1 · Tanach
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Vayikra

Leviticus 19:15

'בְּצֶדֶק תִּשְׁפֹּט עֲמִיתֶךָ' — 'Judge your fellow in righteousness': the Torah's command to judge others fairly and justly, which the Sages expound as judging favorably.

לֹא־תַעֲשׂ֥וּ עָ֙וֶל֙ בַּמִּשְׁפָּ֔ט לֹא־תִשָּׂ֣א פְנֵי־דָ֔ל וְלֹ֥א תֶהְדַּ֖ר פְּנֵ֣י גָד֑וֹל בְּצֶ֖דֶק תִּשְׁפֹּ֥ט עֲמִיתֶֽךָ׃

You shall not render an unfair decision: do not favor the poor or show deference to the rich; judge your kindred fairly.

Source 2 · Chazal
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Pirkei Avot

Pirkei Avot 1:6

Yehoshua ben Perachya teaches: 'Judge every person favorably (לכף זכות)' — the obligation to give others the benefit of the doubt rather than assuming wrongdoing.

יְהוֹשֻׁעַ בֶּן פְּרַחְיָה וְנִתַּאי הָאַרְבֵּלִי קִבְּלוּ מֵהֶם. יְהוֹשֻׁעַ בֶּן פְּרַחְיָה אוֹמֵר, עֲשֵׂה לְךָ רַב, וּקְנֵה לְךָ חָבֵר, וֶהֱוֵי דָן אֶת כָּל הָאָדָם לְכַף זְכוּת:

Joshua ben Perahiah and Nittai the Arbelite received [the oral tradition] from them. Joshua ben Perahiah used to say: appoint for thyself a teacher, and acquire for thyself a companion and judge all men with the scale weighted in his favor.

Source 3 · Chazal
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Pirkei Avot

Pirkei Avot 2:4

Hillel says: 'Do not trust in yourself until the day of your death, and do not judge your fellow until you reach his place' — a foundational teaching that one cannot truly judge another without having stood in their circumstances.

הִלֵּל אוֹמֵר, אַל תִּפְרֹשׁ מִן הַצִּבּוּר, וְאַל תַּאֲמִין בְּעַצְמְךָ עַד יוֹם מוֹתְךָ, וְאַל תָּדִין אֶת חֲבֵרְךָ עַד שֶׁתַּגִּיעַ לִמְקוֹמוֹ, וְאַל תֹּאמַר דָּבָר שֶׁאִי אֶפְשָׁר לִשְׁמֹעַ, שֶׁסּוֹפוֹ לְהִשָּׁמַע.

Do not say something that cannot be understood [trusting] that in the end it will be understood.

Source 4 · Chazal
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Talmud Bavli, Shabbat

Shabbat 127b

The Talmud derives from the verse 'בְּצֶדֶק תִּשְׁפֹּט עֲמִיתֶךָ' that one is obligated to judge every person favorably (לכף זכות), and illustrates this with several stories of great sages who went to extremes to find merit in seemingly questionable behavior.

תָּנוּ רַבָּנַן: הַדָּן חֲבֵירוֹ לְכַף זְכוּת — דָּנִין אוֹתוֹ לִזְכוּת. וּמַעֲשֶׂה בְּאָדָם אֶחָד שֶׁיָּרַד מִגָּלִיל הָעֶלְיוֹן וְנִשְׂכַּר אֵצֶל בַּעַל הַבַּיִת אֶחָד בַּדָּרוֹם שָׁלֹשׁ שָׁנִים. עֶרֶב יוֹם הַכִּפּוּרִים אָמַר לוֹ: תֵּן לִי שְׂכָרִי, וְאֵלֵךְ וְאָזוּן אֶת אִשְׁתִּי וּבָנַי. אָמַר לוֹ: אֵין לִי מָעוֹת. אָמַר לוֹ: תֵּן לִי פֵּירוֹת. אָמַר לוֹ: אֵין לִי. תֵּן לִי קַרְקַע — אֵין לִי. תֵּן לִי בְּהֵמָה — אֵין לִי. תֵּן לִי כָּרִים וּכְסָתוֹת — אֵין לִי. הִפְשִׁיל כֵּלָיו לַאֲחוֹרָיו, וְהָלַךְ לְבֵיתוֹ בְּפַחֵי נֶפֶשׁ. לְאַחַר הָרֶגֶל נָטַל בַּעַל הַבַּיִת שְׂכָרוֹ בְּיָדוֹ, וְעִמּוֹ מַשּׂוֹי שְׁלֹשָׁה חֲמוֹרִים, אֶחָד שֶׁל מַאֲכָל, וְאֶחָד שֶׁל מִשְׁתֶּה, וְאֶחָד שֶׁל מִינֵי מְגָדִים, וְהָלַךְ לוֹ לְבֵיתוֹ. אַחַר שֶׁאָכְלוּ וְשָׁתוּ נָתַן לוֹ שְׂכָרוֹ. אָמַר לוֹ: בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁאָמַרְתָּ לִי ״תֵּן לִי שְׂכָרִי״ וְאָמַרְתִּי ״אֵין לִי מָעוֹת״, בַּמֶּה חֲשַׁדְתַּנִי? אָמַרְתִּי: שֶׁמָּא פְּרַקְמַטְיָא בְּזוֹל נִזְדַּמְּנָה לְךָ, וְלָקַחְתָּ בָּהֶן. וּבְשָׁעָה שֶׁאָמַרְתָּ לִי ״תֵּן לִי בְּהֵמָה״, וְאָמַרְתִּי ״אֵין לִי בְּהֵמָה״, בַּמֶּה חֲשַׁדְתַּנִי? אָמַרְתִּי: שֶׁמָּא מוּשְׂכֶּרֶת בְּיַד אֲחֵרִים. בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁאָמַרְתָּ לִי ״תֵּן לִי קַרְקַע״, וְאָמַרְתִּי לְךָ ״אֵין לִי קַרְקַע״, בַּמֶּה חֲשַׁדְתַּנִי? אָמַרְתִּי: שֶׁמָּא מוּחְכֶּרֶת בְּיַד אֲחֵרִים הִיא. וּבְשָׁעָה שֶׁאָמַרְתִּי לְךָ ״אֵין לִי פֵּירוֹת״ בַּמֶּה חֲשַׁדְתַּנִי? אָמַרְתִּי: שֶׁמָּא אֵינָן מְעוּשָּׂרוֹת. וּבְשָׁעָה שֶׁאָמַרְתִּי לְךָ ״אֵין לִי כָּרִים וּכְסָתוֹת״ בַּמֶּה חֲשַׁדְתַּנִי? אָמַרְתִּי: שֶׁמָּא הִקְדִּישׁ כָּל נְכָסָיו לַשָּׁמַיִם. אָמַר לוֹ: הָעֲבוֹדָה! כָּךְ הָיָה. הִדַּרְתִּי כׇּל נְכָסַי בִּשְׁבִיל הוּרְקָנוֹס בְּנִי שֶׁלֹּא עָסַק בַּתּוֹרָה. וּכְשֶׁבָּאתִי אֵצֶל חֲבֵירַי בַּדָּרוֹם הִתִּירוּ לִי כָּל נְדָרַי. וְאַתָּה, כְּשֵׁם שֶׁדַּנְתַּנִי לִזְכוּת, הַמָּקוֹם יָדִין אוֹתְךָ לִזְכוּת.

The Sages taught in a baraita: One who judges another favorably is himself judged favorably. And there was an incident involving a certain person who descended from the Upper Galilee and was hired to work for a certain homeowner in the South for three years. On the eve of the Day of Atonement, he said to the homeowner: Give me my wages, and I will go and feed my wife and children. The homeowner said to him: I have no money. He said to him: In that case, give me my wages in the form of produce. He said to him: I have none. The worker said to him: Give me my wages in the form of land. The homeowner said to him: I have none. The worker said to him: Give me my wages in the form of animals. He said to him: I have none. The worker said to him: Give me cushions and blankets. He said to him: I have none. The worker slung his tools over his shoulder behind him and went to his home in anguish. After the festival of Sukkot, the homeowner took the worker’s wages in his hand, along with a burden that required three donkeys, one laden with food, one laden with drink, and one laden with types of sweets, and went to the worker’s home. After they ate and drank, the homeowner gave him his wages. The homeowner said to him: When you said to me: Give me my wages, and I said: I have no money, of what did you suspect me? Why did you not suspect me of trying to avoid paying you? The worker answered, I said: Perhaps the opportunity to purchase merchandise [perakmatya] inexpensively presented itself, and you purchased it with the money that you owed me, and therefore you had no money available. The homeowner asked: And when you said to me: Give me animals, and I said: I have no animals, of what did you suspect me? The worker answered: I said: Perhaps the animals are hired to others. The homeowner asked: When you said to me: Give me land, and I said: I have no land, of what did you suspect me? The worker answered: I said: Perhaps the land is leased to others, and you cannot take the land from the lessees. The homeowner asked: And when you said to me: Give me produce, and I said: I have no produce, of what did you suspect me? The worker answered: I said: Perhaps they are not tithed, and that was why you could not give them to me. The homeowner asked: And when I said: I have no cushions or blankets, of what did you suspect me? The worker answered: I said: Perhaps he consecrated all his property to Heaven and therefore has nothing available at present. The homeowner said to him: I swear by the Temple service that it was so. I had no money available at the time because I vowed and consecrated all my property on account of Hyrcanus, my son, who did not engage in Torah study. The homeowner sought to avoid leaving an inheritance for his son. And when I came to my colleagues in the South, the Sages of that generation, they dissolved all my vows. At that point, the homeowner had immediately gone to pay his worker. Now the homeowner said: And you, just as you judged favorably, so may God judge you favorably.

Source 5 · Chazal
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Talmud Bavli, Sanhedrin

Sanhedrin 37a

The Talmud teaches that one who destroys a single soul is as if he destroyed an entire world — underscoring the weight of judgment over another person and the infinite value of each individual, which demands humility before judging.

לְפִיכָךְ נִבְרָא אָדָם יְחִידִי, לְלַמֶּדְךָ שֶׁכׇּל הַמְאַבֵּד נֶפֶשׁ אַחַת מִיִּשְׂרָאֵל, מַעֲלֶה עָלָיו הַכָּתוּב כְּאִילּוּ אִיבֵּד עוֹלָם מָלֵא. וְכׇל הַמְקַיֵּים נֶפֶשׁ אַחַת מִיִּשְׂרָאֵל, מַעֲלֶה עָלָיו הַכָּתוּב כְּאִילּוּ קִיֵּים עוֹלָם מָלֵא. וּלְהַגִּיד גְּדוּלָּתוֹ שֶׁל הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא, שֶׁאָדָם טוֹבֵעַ כַּמָּה מַטְבְּעוֹת בְּחוֹתָם אֶחָד – כּוּלָּן דּוֹמִין זֶה לָזֶה, וּמֶלֶךְ מַלְכֵי הַמְּלָכִים הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא טָבַע כׇּל אָדָם בְּחוֹתָמוֹ שֶׁל אָדָם הָרִאשׁוֹן, וְאֵין אֶחָד מֵהֶן דּוֹמֶה לַחֲבֵירוֹ. לְפִיכָךְ כָּל אֶחָד וְאֶחָד חַיָּיב לוֹמַר: בִּשְׁבִילִי נִבְרָא הָעוֹלָם.

The court tells the witnesses: Therefore, Adam the first man was created alone, to teach you that with regard to anyone who destroys one soul from the Jewish people, i.e., kills one Jew, the verse ascribes him blame as if he destroyed an entire world, as Adam was one person, from whom the population of an entire world came forth. And conversely, anyone who sustains one soul from the Jewish people, the verse ascribes him credit as if he sustained an entire world. And this serves to tell of the greatness of the Holy One, Blessed be He, as when a person stamps several coins with one seal, they are all similar to each other. But the supreme King of kings, the Holy One, Blessed be He, stamped all people with the seal of Adam the first man, as all of them are his offspring, and not one of them is similar to another. Therefore, since all humanity descends from one person, each and every person is obligated to say: The world was created for me, as one person can be the source of all humanity, and recognize the significance of his actions.

Source 6 · Rishonim
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Mishneh Torah, Hilkhot De'ot

Mishneh Torah, Human Dispositions 5:7

The Rambam codifies the obligation to judge others favorably: one should interpret ambiguous actions of fellow Jews as meritorious rather than sinful, and details the conditions under which this applies based on the person's known character.

וְדָן אֶת כָּל הָאָדָם לְכַף זְכוּת.

He should judge every one in a good light, speak favorably of his fellow man, [never mentioning] anything that is shameful to him, love peace and pursue it.

Source 7 · Rishonim
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Sha'arei Teshuvah — Rabbeinu Yonah

Sha'arei Teshuvah 3:218

Rabbeinu Yonah lists judging others unfavorably (דן לכף חובה) as a serious sin, explaining that assuming the worst about others leads to speaking ill of them, and that the righteous person trains himself to find merit in every person.

וְאִם הוּא מִן הַבֵּינוֹנִים אֲשֶׁר יִזָּהֲרוּ מִן הַחֵטְא וּפְעָמִים יִכָּשְׁלוּ בּוֹ. יֵשׁ עָלֶיךָ לְהַטּוֹת הַסָּפֵק וּלְהַכְרִיעוֹ לְכַף הַזְּכוּת. כְּמוֹ שֶׁאָמְרוּ רַבּוֹתֵינוּ זִכְרוֹנָם לִבְרָכָה הַדָּן אֶת חֲבֵרוֹ לְכַף זְכוּת הַמָּקוֹם יְדִינֵהוּ לְכַף זְכוּת. וְהִיא מִצְוַת עֲשֵׂה מִן הַתּוֹרָה. וְאִם הָאִישׁ הַהוּא רֹב מַעֲשָׂיו לְרֹעַ אוֹ בְּחַנְתּוֹ כִּי אֵין יִרְאַת אֱלֹהִים בִּלְבָבוֹ.

son of a righteous man.’” And behold when you see a man who is saying something or performing an act, and one can judge the thing as him being guilty or being innocent: If the man is one that fears God, you have been obligated to judge him favorably in truth - even if the thing is closer to, and makes more sense to be, understood unfavorably. And if he is from the [group] in-between, that are careful about sin, but sometimes stumble over it - you must incline the doubt towards judging favorably, as our Rabbis, may their memory be blessed, said (Shabbat 127b), “One who judges another favorably is himself judged favorably.” And it is a positive commandment from the Torah, as it is stated (Leviticus 19:15) “you shall judge your countryman justly (betsedek, which can also be understood as, favorably).” And if the matter leans towards guilt - let the matter be a doubt to you, and do not decide it unfavorably.

Source 8 · Rishonim
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Iggeret HaRamban

Iggeret HaRamban 1

The Ramban's famous ethical letter to his son emphasizes humility above all — one who is truly humble will not presume to judge others, recognizing that every person has a place and worth that he himself may not perceive.

"שְׁמַע בְּנִי מוּסַר אָבִיךָ, וְאַל תִּטֹּשׁ תּוֹרַת אִמֶּךָ" (משלי א ח).

"Listen, my son, to the thought of your father, and do not forsake the teaching of your mother." (Proverbs 1:8)

Source 9 · Rishonim
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Orchot Tzadikim

Orchot Tzadikim

The work on ethical refinement discusses the trait of judging others favorably as a dimension of humility and love of one's fellow, warning that harshness in judging others is a sign of arrogance and a failure to recognize one's own flaws.

וּכְתִיב (ויקרא יח ג): ״וּבְחֻקּוֹתֵיהֶם לֹא תֵלֵכוּ״; וְנֶאֱמַר (דברים יב ל): ״הִשָּׁמֶר לְךָ פֶּן תִּנָּקֵשׁ אַחֲרֵיהֶם״ – הַכֹּל בְּעִנְיָן אֶחָד הוּא מַזְהִיר, שֶׁיְּהֵא יִשְׂרָאֵל מֻבְדָּל בְּמַלְבּוּשָׁיו וּבִדְבָרָיו וּבְכָל מִנְהָגָיו מִן הַגּוֹיִים. וְכֵן הוּא אוֹמֵר (ויקרא כ כו):

Arrogant people are disgusting in the eyes of the Lord, as it is said: "Every one that is proud in heart is an abomination to the Lord" (Prov. 16:5). And such a one is easily surrendered into the power of his evil impulse, for God's help is not with him since he is abominable to the Lord. And even though he does not lord it over any man by word or deed but in his heart alone, he is called "abominable" for it says, "Every one that is proud in heart is an abomination to the Lord," that is to say, even if he has no arrogance except in his heart.

Source 10 · Acharonim
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Tomer Devorah — Ramak

Tomer Devorah 1:1

The Ramak teaches that to walk in God's ways means to emulate Divine forbearance — just as God does not judge the wicked instantly but bears with them patiently, so too a person should bear with others and not rush to condemn them.

יָשׁוּב יְרַחֲמֵנוּ. תִּתֵּן אֱמֶת. אִם כֵּן רָאוּי שֶׁתִּמְצָאֶנָּה בוֹ י"ג מִדּוֹת אֵלּוּ.

Therefore it is fitting that he should [make his actions] resemble the actions of the Crown (Keter), which are the thirteen highest traits of mercy. And they are hinted to in the secret of the verses (Michah 7:18-20), "Who is a power like You; He will again have mercy on us; You shall give truth." If so, it is fitting that these thirteen traits [also] be found in man.

Source 11 · Acharonim
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Mesillat Yesharim

Mesillat Yesharim 11

In the chapter on Cleanliness (נקיות), the Ramchal teaches that one of the most common failures is judging others by appearances; true inner purity requires training oneself to seek merit and not leap to condemnation of others' conduct.

כִּי לֹא הַמַּעֲשֶׂה הַנִּכָּר וּמְפֻרְסָם בְּעֹשֶׁק וּבְגָזֵל הוּא לְבַדּוֹ הָאָסוּר. אֶלָּא כָּל שֶׁסּוֹף סוֹף יַגִּיעַ אֵלָיו וְיִגְרֹם אוֹתוֹ, כְּבָר הוּא בִּכְלַל הָאִסּוּר. וְעַל עִנְיָן זֶה אָמְרוּ זִכְרוֹנָם לִבְרָכָה (סנהדרין פא):

CLEANLINESS FROM THEFT: We can observe that even though most people are not blatant thieves, literally taking with their hands the possession of their fellow and putting it in their own possessions, nevertheless, most people experience a taste of theft in their business dealings by rationalizing permission to profit through their fellow's loss. They may tell themselves: "Business is different".

Source 12 · Hasidic
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Kedushat Levi — Parashat Vayera

Kedushat Levi, Genesis, Vayera

Reb Levi Yitzchak of Berditchev, famous for his passionate defense of the Jewish people before God, expounds on this parasha to teach that love of every Jew demands that one always find their merit rather than their fault, just as Avraham argued on behalf of Sodom.

משום דרצה לזרז להם במצות ובבשר יש הרבה מצות שחיטה ומליחה וניקור אבל בדגים אין שום מצוה. אבל לעתיד לבוא יהיה העיקר הסעודה דגים ולכך סעודת לעתיד לבא נקראת סעודת לויתן. ואמרנו פירוש על מה שאמרו חכמינו ז"ל (בבא מציעא פו:) שאברהם אבינו עליו השלום האכיל למלאכים שלשה לשונות בחרדל. ונבאר על דרך שאמרו בגמרא במסכת ערובין פרק כיצד מעברין, ר' אשיאן כי הוי משתעי בלשון חכמה הוי אמר קריבו לי שור משפט בטור מסכן, ופירש רש"י טור מסכן היינו חרדל הר דל עיין שם. והנה שבא ללמד זכות על ישראל שיצא לאור משפטם ושלא יראה עמל בישראל חס וחלילה לזה אמר טור מסכן, היינו הר דל דאמרו חכמינו ז"ל (סוכה נב.) יצר הרע נדמה להם כהר והיצר טוב נקרא מסכן וחכמת המסכן בזויה (קהלת ט, טז) וכיון שגדול כח היצר הרע ונדמה כהר והיצר טוב הוא מסכן אין להאשימם על אשר לא זכרו את האיש המסכן ולולי זאת היו מסגלים מעשים טובים הרבה. וזה הרמז שהאכיל אברהם אבינו עליו השלום להמלאכים שלשה לשונות בחרדל, היינו הר דל שהוזכר להם זה שהיצר הרע נדמה כהר והיצר טוב כמסכן ולזאת לא יקטרגו חס ושלום על ישראל שלולי זאת שגדול כח היצר הרע שנדמה כהר והיצר טוב כמסכן היו עובדים את השם יתברך כראוי וכנכון:

Another aspect of the line: ‎וירא וירץ לקראתם‎. ‎A tzaddik is able to judge the character of a person by ‎merely looking at that person’s face. When encountering a ‎wholesome person, he is suddenly filled with light, whereas when ‎he does not feel his features suddenly exuding brightness, this is a ‎warning to him that he is looking at an evil person. In this ‎instance, the Torah prefaces Avraham’s running to meet these ‎men with the words: ‎וישא עיניו וירא‎, “he raised his eyes and saw;” ‎this meant that he felt himself reacting positively to the ‎appearance of these men as soon as he set eyes upon them.‎

Source 13 · Modern
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Shemirat HaLashon — Chafetz Chaim

Shemirat HaLashon, Book I, The Gate of Remembering 1

The Chafetz Chaim demonstrates how the sin of lashon hara is rooted in judging others negatively; only when one first judges another unfavorably does one then speak ill of them — making 'do not judge' the root prevention of forbidden speech.

וְאַחַר כָּךְ אָמַר הַכָּתוּב (תהילים ל"ד ט"ו): "סוּר מֵרָע", עַל כְּלַל הָעֲוֹנוֹת שֶׁבֵּין אָדָם לַמָּקוֹם. וְאַחַר כָּךְ אָמַר "עֲשֵׂה טוֹב", עַל כְּלַל כָּל הָרְמַ"ח עֲשִׂין. [וְהִקְדִּים שְׁמִירָה מֵעֲוֹנוֹת שֶׁבֵּין אָדָם לַחֲבֵרוֹ, כִּי הֵם כּוֹלְלִים שְׁנֵיהֶם, שֶׁהוּא עוֹבֵר עַל רְצוֹן הַשֵּׁם שֶׁצִּוָּה עַל זֶה וְגַם הוּא עוֹשֶׂה עַוְלָה בָּזֶה לַחֲבֵרוֹ.] וּלְהֶפֶךְ, חַס וְשָׁלוֹם, כְּשֶׁלֹּא יִנְצֹר לְשׁוֹנוֹ מֵרַע, יִתְרַבֶּה עָלָיו עֲוֹנוֹת מְרֻבִּים וְחַטָּאִים עֲצוּמִים לִמְאֹד, שֶׁמִּשְׁתַּלְשֵׁל עַל יְדֵי הֶעָוֹן הַזֶּה כַּמְבֹאָר בַּפְּתִיחָה. וְהָעִנְיָן הַזֶּה שֶׁל נְצִירַת הַלָּשׁוֹן הוּא שֹׁרֶשׁ וְעִקָר לְרֹב עֲוֹנוֹת שֶׁבֵּין אָדָם לַחֲבֵרוֹ וְגַם לְאֵיזֶה עֲוֹנוֹת שֶׁבֵּין אָדָם לַמָּקוֹם, כַּמְבֹאָר לְהַמְעַיֵּן שָׁם.

And after that, Scripture states: "Depart from evil," relating to the category of sins between man and his Maker. This is followed by "and do good," relating to the 248 positive commandments. [Guarding oneself from sins between man and his neighbor ("Guard your tongue, etc.,") comes first because they include both — transgressing the will of the L-rd, who commanded against it, and also wronging his neighbor thereby.] And the opposite, G-d forbid: If he does not guard his tongue from evil, there multiply in him many transgressions and extremely grave sins which issue from this sin, as explained in the preface. And guarding one's tongue is the root and source of the sins between man and his neighbor and also of some of the sins between man and his Maker, as has been explained there.