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Tu B'Av's White Garments: Soul and Dignity

The borrowed white garments worn by maidens on Tu B'Av served to prevent shame and equalize dignity across social classes. Chassidic thought deepens this practice by grounding it in the spiritual principle of recognizing the soul's inherent worth in every person, transcending external distinctions.

כִּי מֵאַחַר שֶׁגּוּפוֹ נִמְאָס וּמְתוֹעָב אֶצְלוֹ, וְהַנֶּפֶשׁ וְהָרוּחַ מִי יוֹדֵעַ גְּדוּלָּתָן

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What the sources say

The foundational source is Mishnah Ta'anit 4:8, which records that on the fifteenth of Av and Yom Kippur — declared the two most joyous days in the Jewish calendar — the daughters of Jerusalem would go out in borrowed white garments, explicitly so as not to embarrass any woman who had none of her own.

The Gemara in Ta'anit 31a adds a striking detail: the borrowing crossed every social boundary, with the king's daughter borrowing from the High Priest's daughter, who borrowed from the deputy's daughter, on down through every rank — so that the practice of equalizing through borrowing was itself the point, not a mere courtesy.

Tanya, Likkutei Amarim 32 — while addressing the mitzvah of loving one's fellow — teaches that all Jewish souls share a single divine root and a single Father, so that all Israelites are 'real brothers' by virtue of that soul-source; it is only bodies that are divided, and those who treat the body as primary can never achieve true brotherhood.

Read together, the borrowed white garments embody precisely what Tanya, Likkutei Amarim 32 describes: by concealing bodily distinctions of wealth behind identical, borrowed clothing, the daughters of Jerusalem enacted the soul-level unity that Chassidus understands as the deeper truth of Jewish brotherhood — a joy rooted not in what one possesses but in a shared divine source that renders all equal.

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recovered from “Mishnah 4:8

Mishnah Ta'anit 4:8

משנה תענית ד׳:ח׳

Mishnah Ta'anit 4:8

The passage itself is the foundational rabbinic description of Tu B'Av's vineyard dance and the borrowed white garments, emphasizing modesty, dignity, and communal joy in marriage-making.

אָמַר רַבָּן שִׁמְעוֹן בֶּן גַּמְלִיאֵל, לֹא הָיוּ יָמִים טוֹבִים לְיִשְׂרָאֵל כַּחֲמִשָּׁה עָשָׂר בְּאָב וּכְיוֹם הַכִּפּוּרִים, שֶׁבָּהֶן בְּנוֹת יְרוּשָׁלַיִם יוֹצְאוֹת בִּכְלֵי לָבָן שְׁאוּלִין, שֶׁלֹּא לְבַיֵּשׁ אֶת מִי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ. וּבְנוֹת יְרוּשָׁלַיִם יוֹצְאוֹת וְחוֹלוֹת בַּכְּרָמִים.

Rabban Shimon ben Gamliel said: There were no days as joyous for the Jewish people as the fifteenth of Av and as Yom Kippur, as on them the daughters of Jerusalem would go out in white clothes, which each woman borrowed from another. They did this so as not to embarrass one who did not have her own white garments.

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recovered from “Babylonian Talmud Ta'anit 31a

Ta'anit

תענית ל״א א

Ta'anit 31a

The passage discusses various aspects of Tu B'Av, including why it is celebrated (such as the burial of those killed at Betar and the cessation of wood-cutting for the altar), describes how maidens borrowed white garments from one another regardless of social status so that poor girls would not be ashamed, and recounts the different things various categories of young women would say to attract suitors.

בַּת מֶלֶךְ שׁוֹאֶלֶת מִבַּת כֹּהֵן גָּדוֹל, בַּת כֹּהֵן גָּדוֹל —מִבַּת סְגָן, וּבַת סְגָן — מִבַּת מְשׁוּחַ מִלְחָמָה, וּבַת מְשׁוּחַ מִלְחָמָה — מִבַּת כֹּהֵן הֶדְיוֹט, וְכׇל יִשְׂרָאֵל שׁוֹאֲלִין זֶה מִזֶּה כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא (יִתְבַּיֵּישׁ) [לְבַיֵּישׁ] אֶת מִי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ.

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Tanya 32

תניא, חלק ראשון; ליקוטי אמרים ל״ב — ד"ה כִּי מֵאַחַר שֶׁגּוּפוֹ נִמְאָס וּמְתוֹעָב אֶצְלוֹ

Tanya, Part I; Likkutei Amarim 32:2

This chapter grounds love of fellow Jews in seeing the other's soul and avoiding humiliation. That spiritual ethic is highly relevant to the Tu B'Av borrowed garments, where the point is to prevent shame and equalize dignity.

כִּי מֵאַחַר שֶׁגּוּפוֹ נִמְאָס וּמְתוֹעָב אֶצְלוֹ, וְהַנֶּפֶשׁ וְהָרוּחַ מִי יוֹדֵעַ גְּדוּלָּתָן וּמַעֲלָתָן בְּשָׁרְשָׁן וּמְקוֹרָן בֵּאלֹקִים חַיִּים. בְּשֶׁגַּם שֶׁכּוּלָּן מַתְאִימוֹת, וְאָב אֶחָד לְכוּלָּנָה, וְלָכֵן נִקְרְאוּ כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל ״אַחִים״ מַמָּשׁ, מִצַּד שׁוֹרֶשׁ נַפְשָׁם בַּה׳ אֶחָד רַק שֶׁהַגּוּפִים מְחוּלָּקִים. וְלָכֵן, הָעוֹשִׂים גּוּפָם עִיקָּר וְנַפְשָׁם טְפֵלָה – אִי אֶפְשָׁר לִהְיוֹת אַהֲבָה וְאַחֲוָה אֲמִיתִּית בֵּינֵיהֶם, אֶלָּא הַתְּלוּיָה בְדָבָר לְבַדָּהּ. וְזֶהוּ שֶׁאָמַר הִלֵּל הַזָּקֵן עַל קִיּוּם מִצְוָה זוֹ: ״זֶהוּ כָּל הַתּוֹרָה כוּלָּהּ, וְאִידָךְ פֵּירוּשָׁא הוּא כוּ׳״. כִּי יְסוֹד וְשׁוֹרֶשׁ כָּל הַתּוֹרָה – הוּא לְהַגְבִּיהַּ וּלְהַעֲלוֹת הַנֶּפֶשׁ עַל הַגּוּף מַעְלָה מַּעְלָה עַד עִיקָּרָא וְשָׁרְשָׁא דְּכָל עָלְמִין וְגַם, לְהַמְשִׁיךְ אוֹר־אֵין־סוֹף בָּרוּךְ־הוּא בִּכְנֶסֶת יִשְׂרָאֵל, כְּמוֹ שֶׁיִּתְבָּאֵר לְקַמָּן, דְּהַיְינוּ, בִּמְקוֹר נִשְׁמוֹת כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל, לְמֶהֱוֵי אֶחָד בְּאֶחָד דַּוְקָא, וְלֹא כְּשֶׁיֵּשׁ פֵּירוּד חַס וְשָׁלוֹם בַּנְּשָׁמוֹת, דְּ״קוּדְשָׁא־בְּרִיךְ־הוּא לָא שַׁרְיָא בַּאֲתַר פְּגִים״, וּכְמוֹ שֶׁאוֹמְרִים: ״בָּרְכֵנוּ אָבִינוּ כּוּלָּנוּ כְּאֶחָד בְּאוֹר פָּנֶיךָ״, וּכְמוֹ שֶׁנִּתְבָּאֵר בְּמָקוֹם אַחֵר בַּאֲרִיכוּת:

For, whereas one despises and loathes one’s body, while as for the soul and spirit, who can know their greatness and excellence in their root and source in the living G–d? Being, moreover, all of a kind and all having one Father—therefore, all Israelites are called real brothers by virtue of the source of their souls in the One G–d; only the bodies are separated. Hence in the case of those who give major consideration to their bodies while regarding their souls as of secondary importance, there can be no true love and brotherhood among them, but only [a love] which is dependent on a [transitory] thing. This is what Hillel the Elder meant when he said in regard to the fulfillment of this commandment, “This is the whole Torah, while the rest is but commentary,” and so on. For the basis and root of the entire Torah are to raise and exalt the soul high above the body, reaching to the Source and Root of all the worlds, and also to bring down the Light of the En Sof, blessed is He, upon the community of Israel, as will be explained later, i.e., into the fountainhead of the souls of all Israel, to become “One into One.” This is impossible if there is, G–d forbid, disunity among the souls, for the Holy One, blessed is He, does not dwell in an imperfect place, as we pray, “Bless us, our Father, all of us as one, with the light of Your Countenance,” as has been explained at great length elsewhere.